The human mind is very malleable. We are affected every day by everything we consume. From the food we eat to the content online we spend our time on. In this world, the most valuable commodity is your attention, your time, your money. With that knowledge, we must be very attentive to what we consume. From the brain rot of random social media content to the waste of time of who the next Kardashian is going to marry.
We tend to occupy our minds with things that never mattered in order to “ease” or “calm” our minds from the stressful matters of the world. But if that is the case, wouldn’t the most easing and stress relieving thing to do then is to.. fix it? Instead of running or hiding from our problems, we Gents seek to face them head on with a smile on our face. In fact, we seek out our problems, for we understand that the only way out is through, and that all of the pain that we experience during the process is necessary, if not, vital to our growth.
When there are problems with money or with our relationships, we must take a long look in the mirror to understand how we have gotten into these exact situations. What have we done that could have been handled differently? What outside factors took effect that we could not control? How can we, as individuals, alter the course of our lives to fix and prevent these problems from arising again. These are the important ways of thinking as a Gentleman. Without them, we hide from our problems. They linger with us for months to years because we choose to look at the phone we put in front of our face rather than the life that is on the other side.
Imagine how much better of a friend, a lover, a family member, a man you could be. How much better could you support your loved ones only by being in a better position in life both physically and mentally? Take a long look at yourself. Are you running from your problems? How much could have been done by today had you started focusing a month ago? What if you started 10 months ago? Where will you be in one year, if you started today? You say you will focus when you are ready. You will never be ready. There will always be another party, another hit, another drink before it’s your “last one”. Start. Now. Sacrifice for your own greater good, and better yourself so that one day, you may look back and realize that you’ve had what you needed to achieve your dreams all along.
All it takes is motivation once to get started. Once you have begun, the rest is about whether you actually want it or not. People fall off so often saying, “Ah, you see, I really wanted to do that. But I just lost motivation when this happened.”. YOU WILL LOSE MOTIVATION. LIFE WILL HIT YOU IN YOUR HEAD. It is just simply not a matter of motivation. It is a matter of PRINCIPLE and DETERMINATION. These are the abilities of which define a Gentleman and his actions. Once he begins something, he knows that it is what his heart wants, and will stop at nothing, not even himself, to complete his mission.
Look back to the last goal that you quit. Did you start going to the gym every day, but stopped? Did you decide to quit smoking but then something “bad” happened in your life and you decided that that was enough and you went back? What if, instead of blaming outside circumstances, you took responsibility for your situation in life. What is in it for you if you don’t? Maybe you’ll feel better about yourself even if you shouldn’t, but if you choose to point the finger towards you, it drives you to become better. Maybe you couldn’t control the outside factors that made you choose to stop chasing your goals. But at the end of the day, it was YOUR decision.
We control little in this world other than ourselves, and even then, most men cannot even control themselves. Our actions are controlled by our decisions. Our decisions, by our mindset. If you truly want to become your better self, you must take time out of your day to meditate on who you truly are. What are your values? What are your goals? Do you really wish to achieve them, or are they just nice thoughts? The Gentleman’s Mindset is one of strength, courage, determination, and understanding. Strength in mind and body. Courage in yourself to take the leaps necessary. Determination to never turn back but to continue through all pain. Understanding of self and others, learning to forgive and have an open mind to the wonders of this world.
You are guaranteed a way out of any bad situation in your life if you follow these steps. A man who only takes steps forward will eventually push his way through the forest, no matter how long it takes. Are you ready to become the man that you need to be?
